Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

Jul 13

Have you been toying with the idea of writing your own vows? When you think about exchanging your vows within our beautiful outdoor wedding venue in Vista, California, what do you picture? We’re all for the highly personal, deeply meaningful, and tear-jerking moments that come along with the exchange of self-written vows. After all, your wedding is about YOU and your marriage! What better way to speak about your unique love than hand-in-hand with your future spouse at the altar?

We’ve got some tips to help you check off your ‘I-do’s’ from your wedding ‘to-dos’.

Don’t procrastinate!

We get that it might feel like one of those looming college essays, but this is one of those things that really SHOULD NOT be completed right before the due date! Having this big step completed will not only

Stay true to you

If you’re reading this, you’ve likely done plenty of research on how to write your vows. Take inspiration from the ideas online, but don’t be tempted into copying someone else’s words! After all, that’s why you’ve chosen to write your own.

Just start writing

Open up your computer, your notebook, or your phone- whatever is most conducive to also opening up that creativity of yours! Start writing any words that come to mind about your person and your relationship. Are you funny? More deep and serious? Do you have a mutual love of Persian cats and watching The Office reruns? All of these little details woven together are what makes your speech really stand out.

(Bonus tip: In desperate situations, we’ve found a glass of wine can be helpful to push past those mental blocks, and you deserve it if you’re planning a wedding!)

Assign a proof-reader

There is nothing worse than when a couple’s vows are lopsided. If the bride writes a deeply sentimental poem that fills the page, then the groom's vows should be equally as thoughtful and similar in length. Have someone assigned to proof-read both fiances’ vows. Make sure they can keep a secret and are able to give feedback to each future spouse.

Think of the presentation

You’ve got your final draft completed, but wait! You don’t want your sloppy post-it note to be in your hands. Talk it over with your partner and make sure you’re both on the same page with how to present your vows. We suggest you consider hand-writing them on stationery so that they can be framed and saved forever.